No More Games - My Memoir

 Hi, and welcome to my blog. The topic will be Christian separation and divorce. 

Recently, when put on shutdown due to the COVID-19 Pandemic, I asked God what he would have me spend my time on. I was surprised the day my thoughts drifted to recalling a lunch conversation with a Christian friend. 

Years ago, I was married. It wasn't a real marriage. It didn't measure up to what God has in mind for marriage. He was immature. I suppose I was too. I was naive. I hesitated to marry him, but followed through. 

A few years later, after several moves he initiated, he left me. I lived separated for many years before ultimately divorcing him. Then I met my current husband. I was remarrying and a girlfriend who'd been my maid of honor scolded me for she didn't believe Christians should remarry. Years later, she and I met for lunch, and she brought up something from my past marriage. What she said was so irrelevant since I'd moved on with my life. by then I'd almost been remarried over 25 years! But I hadn't seen her for most of those years and I guess her mind was still in the past--the old person she used to know. 

 

In the shower that day during the pandemic, my mind rehearsed our conversation. I realized there was so much she didn't know. She would have no clue of my efforts to keep my marriage. She didn't know the level of embarrassment, humiliation, pain, grief, conflicted feelings, nor of the dangerous situations I faced--all on my own. I didn't have new friends to walk the rocky road with. 

It was not simply a throwaway marriage. Many Christians don't know the full story of another couple's separation and divorce journey and thus judge them without knowing the facts.

So my friend brought up her embarrassment for what she said to me as I was remarrying. I told her I'd long forgotten that story. I had. But now fresh in my mind, during the pandemic, I became angry over it. It was time to tell my story. But I could not make it public. I would use a pseudonym. I would change the details. I'd borne enough humiliation. 

 

And so, now ready on Amazon in Kindle form, is my memoir. https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Games-Christian-Marriage-ebook/dp/B09R1PBYKC